Relationships
Key to unlocking your wellbeing potential
Relationships today are treated as if they were just a phase in life. When you are a kid, you seek friendships to play. As a teenager, you experience attraction and click complicity. As an adult, the term relationship becomes multifaceted and confusing. It ranges from colleagues, sexual partners, friends to enemies, heartbreaks & strangers. Each relationship with a set of rules and expectations. But all of them, fleeting. Purposeful for a moment in time or lifetime lesson - based on your take.
But nobody addresses the fact that relationships affect your wellbeing. I'll even go as far as saying that no matter how perfect your lifestyle is in terms of nutrition and physical activity, without the component of healthy relationships, you wouldn't unlock your healthiest version.
Keep reading if you are ready to understand why Relationships affect your wellbeing and find ways to seek & nurture the healthy kinds.
Why do relationships matter to my health?
For the sake of this argument, let's clarify that relationships are not exclusive to couples or spouses. A relationship is any human interaction that partakes in any relevant role in your life.
While at this, let's bypass everything related to the detrimental consequence loneliness has on the physical & mental aspects of health. The focus of this blog post is the relationships that you do have and their impact on your current & future wellbeing.
Why?
The relationships you allow in your life influence the lens through which you see life. Those relationships become the compass that calibrates your decisions & standards. They become the tone & vocabulary for the inside voice that judges your behavior.
Oh, but are you an individual that can carry your weight without the consent of your relationships? Fair. But be aware that you are flirting with loneliness. One thing is to feel confident in your skin and your beliefs. Stand by them. Another thing is to try to carry the world on your shoulders, alone. That is a slow-ticking bomb - BEWARE!
So if your relationships focus on the problems and catastrophe, what do you think your eyes will see constantly? If your relationships influence or consistently unleash a side of you that you don't love, what would that do to your self-worth or self-image? If you need to sacrifice your interests for the sake of fitting in or maintaining relationships, what energy would be left to work on your needs & wants? Catch the drift?
To improve health markers, achieve health goals, be diligent in any transformation journey, you need healthy relationships that nurture your environment to thrive and succeed. Yes, it's your journey; nobody does it for you. But those relationships can either be bumps, obstacles, or fuel for your motor. It's your choice.
What qualifies as a healthy relationship?
A healthy relationship has nothing to do with DNA exchange, duration, or proximity. Not because is your mother it's a healthy relationship, not because it's your friend from high school or your lover from many years. Those relationships can be outgrown or unhealthy for you.
When looking to identify or create healthy relationships, you should seek the following three qualities:
SUPPORTIVE & HONEST
They provide support in a way that honors who you are and your goals. This quality allows the relationship to create an honest reflection towards your input/effort for transformation. It favors and nurtures the growth mindset needed to bounce back from defeat or failure.
BALANCE & FAIR “GIVE & TAKE”
It's an exchange of powers and energy that feed off & grow each other. It's not a draining relationship. Go beyond a 50/50 approach, more like parts that compliment each other harmoniously without forfeiting individuality. It builds trust & complicity to level up and overcome any challenge.
TRIGGERS A JOYFUL VERSION OF YOU
These relationships make you feel good. They inspire you to love who you are while reassuring you are capable of improvement when needed. It favors having a kind voice that judges your behavior and cheers you on during transformation.
Did a quality remind you of someone or a community in your life? As you read, did a name or person come to mind? If so, those relationships should be a priority in your life. Proactively schedule a time to nurture them.
Equally, you may have noticed that some of your frequent relationships don't fit the profile. Don't just cancel them out. Evaluate the potential for those relationships to coarse correct or place boundaries that work in everyone's best interest. It's always easier to think than do, but would you let those relationships butcher your wellbeing?
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If you need a little extra support with the relationships department reach out! You are deserving of the best, in terms of health is not just about food & workouts. The environment matters. Let's jump into a Discovery Session and explore all the possibilities to sustain your health journey even when the context is less than ideal.
From my journey to yours
You can learn to build new-better relationships!
I have been there, alone, because I thought it was the only way to move forward to my goals. On numerous occasions in my past, I have tried to overcome life's twists & turns by myself without any help or support. The fear of heartbreak, betrayal, or judgment was at the core of every denied companionship. The result? Exhaustion, with no progress to showcase. Not no mention a very lonely road that challenged my intentions & sanity.
The day I understood the influence of relationships on my lifestyle, I immediately drifted in the right direction. It was not a dependency but complicity. It was redefining relationships in regards to my goals. Yes, in many cases, it started as interest-based relationships. Yet, it never crossed the line into deceit or exploit. Because communication was part of the dynamic & honesty was always valued. That I had to learn from scratch!
As I proactively nurtured & sought healthy relationships, my ecosystem (in/out) changed for the better. Anything I needed from me to succeed at my goals flourished effortlessly. The best part? This aspect of my lifestyle evolves with me. I trust that I can shift and modify my relationships as I go on with my Health Journey. No fear and all love. Isn't that the goal?
Until Next One!
Stay happy, stay healthy, Stay BALANCED,
